How much influence do you feel you have in your life? How would it feel if you decided to think of yourself as a co-creator of your life story?
The concept of being a co-creator fills us with a sense of power and motivation. It gives us a feeling that not everything is left up to chance. It essentially means that you help to create what happens in your life. There are other undetermined forces at work that shape your life, but you as a co-creator assist in molding and forming the events, like fingers in clay; to sculpt what you imagine.
The ability to set goals, feel
motivation and confidence is alive and thriving in those who have an
internal locus of control (perception of control for one's own life and action). A belief that the events in their life
don't just happen to them by mischance but rather because of the choices they
did or didn't make, provides people with a greater self esteem and less
anxiety than those who feel that they have little to no influence on
There are times of course when life simply hands you a bunch of lemons and no matter how positive your thoughts and actions are there is simply no sugar to be found to remedy the situation. The idea of being an active co-creator even under the sourest of times can give us the courage it takes to continue to live your life with curiosity and vigor. You have done the best you could do with the information you had and it's best to move on with a new vision; lemons and all. Just as bitters in the herbal world are healing, bitter in life can be transformational for us emotionally.
Disappointments in your results as co-creator of your life will naturally happen. Our plans and goals have a way of changing in mid air. As you mold the clay of your next venture you may start out thinking that you
are sculpting a magical unicorn and instead end up with a tea pot;
however at least your tea pot is functional. In other words, although the tea pot isn't exactly what you set out to create, it still serves a purpose and it's presence in your life is there because of your own efforts.
Positive affirmations and positive imagery are affective tools to help hone in on your own power of positive planning in an effort to bring about shifts toward goal fulfillment. There are many contemplative co-creating exercises that can be utilized in helping someone to get clarity about what they long for. Clarity is important to assess where you are in your life path and where you would like to be.
Working with the concept of acting as a co-creator brings a personal vision closer to manifestation. Some suggestions besides affirmations and visualizations are creating collages, or dream boards, music and poetry. Other creative endeavors such as patch work quilting, painting, etc. can be done with the intention of focusing on what you want to create in your life; be it love, health, success. Repeating a mantra throughout the day or prayerful visualization are other ways of tuning into what you want and allowing for gradual manifestation. Gratitude for what is going well in your life is a good place to start in order to generate the mind frame of acceptance and an open heart for the future.
For personalized, therapeutic attention on enhancing your co-creating strengths call Tanya Kuschnitzky MA.Ed., LPC for an appointment at 404-702-8474.